Lost? Need Advice? Want someone to just listen to you, and give you productive feedback for once? Ask away :) I'm here to help, and possibly solve some problems that you might be dealing with. I'm friendly, blunt & I will make sure I do everything and anything to help you out. Promise.
January 20, 2013
Thank you for your advice. He's already asleep but I typed up a message that has everything I feel in it and the next time I feel unappreciated or unwanted I plan to talk to him about it and hit all the points I wrote down in the message. I made it a point that this is the last time I'm asking for this and if it's too much for him then I can't do it anymore. I'm in love with him, but you're right. This might just not be what's right for me. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. -Hannahmylifeinsurroundsound
Hannah, what ended up happening after speaking with him? Are you still together? I hope it all worked out for you!! Love, Samantha.
secretly dating without telling me. What do I do? I don't want to talk to them ever again. They make me feel stupid and disgusting for being such a fool to believe all the stuff they said. I am lostAnonymous
The first half of this message is missing :( I would be more than happy to help you if you would like to resend the entire entry! Love, Samantha.
I'm in love with a guy who I know likes someone else .. There’s nothing I can do to make him like me now .. People are always saying that I have a chance with him because apparently he likes me but he straight up told me that he likes someone else ..Whenever I’m near him I get all upset and he doesn’t know why but he will never know why but he will never know how much I actually like him and how heart broken I am because he doesn’t seem to be interested in me ..what should I do ??deamonsfillyouwithfear
To be blunt— you should move on. If he is being upfront with you & telling you he has feelings for someone else, then you need to respect that—as hard as it may be. You deserve to be with a guy who is head over heels in love with you.. or atleast a guy who expresses genuine interest in you! Don’t sell yourself short. Believe me, it might seem like the end of the world right now that the guy you like doesn’t like you back—but it’s not. You will find that guy who is going to be your everything, and you will be his world. That’s something worth holding out for. TRUST ME. First rule to being in love and finding happiness—LOVE YOURSELF first. Have enough respect and love for yourself to accept what is, and worry about more important things. Put yourself first, and try your best to move on from this guy. He doesn’t sound like he’s the one..which isn’t a bad thing—because that just means your one guy closer to finding the right one!! :) you’re a beautiful, intelligent, and hopeful girl! use it to your advantage. I believe in you! Let me know if you need tips on moving on from him etc. I’ll always be here to listen. Love, Samantha.
I like this guy and I told him and he made me think that he liked me back but now I'm not too sure .. What do I do ?Anonymous
First it would be smart for you to confirm this guys feelings for you. If a guy knows you like him, and you told him flat out, at that point it shouldn’t be too hard to convey if he likes you back or not. If he has been avoiding you since you told him, he’s probably not interested and it’s best to move on… BUT if he’s expressed genuine interest in you since then it would be a great idea to talk about the possibility of seeing if there is anything between you worth pursuing! Your best bet is to just be upfront and ask him—however avoid appearing desperate, or needy. Just be yourself & know that no matter the outcome your prince charming is out there for you—whether it’s him or someone else! :) i wish you all the best and hope the outcome is the one you were hoping for! Love, Samantha.
do you ever post pictures..? or is it just advice?Anonymous
Sometimes photos! but it’s an advice blog— so the photos posted are all meant to be inspirational/motivational/helpful etc. :)
Hi there! I needed some help an didn't know who to ask so I thought you could help :) I was going to have a threesome with my Boyfriend and one of his close friends, but my Boyfriend has been acting weird since we started talking about it so I told him we didn't have to go through with it. The problem I'm having is I have redeveloped a crush on the guys who we were going to do it with. I had a crush on him about 4 years ago (before we started dating) and I thought it was gone. What can I do?Anonymous
Don’t do it. A relationship is meant to be kept sacred between two people. That intimacy you share shouldn’t be spread around to whoever. If you do that you will not only lose interest in the other person, but you will lose respect for the relationship. As far as having a crush on your boyfriends friend— it seems that you are possibly only interested in the threesome to begin with because it would allow you to have something you have wanted for a while with his friend..and that doesn’t seem fair for your boyfriend..and it also seems to be unfair to yourself. Be honest with yourself about your feelings. Accept them, and act on them. If you are more attracted to your boyfriends friend than your boyfriend, you owe it to yourself, and your boyfriend to come clean. You shouldn’t hurt someone by acting on your own selfish motives, but you aren’t doing anyone any favors by harboring intense feelings for someone else outside the relationship. Just something to think about. I hope this helped, and that you can sort the whole mess out! Let me know what you decide on, I’d love an update! Love, Samantha.
ive been in a relationship for 16 months, but recently ive been having feelings for someone else... not more than the ones for my boyfriend, but theyre still there and they have been for a little while. i feel really bad about it.... I rarely talk to the other guy but when i do i get all giddy feeling and stuff. i dont hang out with him but i still feel like im cheating on my bf. idk what to do!Anonymous
What you have been feeling is normal. It’s most likely because things with you and your current boyfriend have been feeling routine. Sometimes as humans we have a problem with appreciating the things we have—- feelings are dulled, and sparks slowly dim down.. it’s not because you lose love for the person, but only because it’s become something ordinary, routine, and “nothing new”. Things with this other guy might spark a feeling in you of excitement.. but it’s probably just excitement of the unknown. I’m sure that if you began another relationship with this new guy, you would probably end up feeling the same as you do now with your current boyfriend. It’s possible you are just craving a change. If you truly love your current boyfriend I would recommend keeping your distance from this other man.. you might not be physically cheating, but mentally and emotionally you seem to have ties to him, and thats not fair on your current boyfriend. Do things to spice up your relationship with your boyfriend rather than jumping the gun and going to this other guy. It could just be that you need to share new, fun, and exciting experiences with your boyfriend. Break the routine! However, if this fails, and you still feel the same, I would suggest trying to be single for a while. It’s unfair to stay with someone if you’re heart isn’t truly in it. Best of luck! hope this helped. Love, Samantha.
November 2, 2012
i'm lost at the moment, im stuck with wanting love from a girl and lusting over the same sex...what should i do..i've come to conclusion i'm bicurious because i have never had any sexual relation with a man..but i love go after girls and just there touch and everything about them...but i'm stuck at a crossroad with am i really curious or am i just tired of rejection that my mind has forced me to believe that if a girl won't love you then maybe a guy will...what do you think is wrong with me?Anonymous
There is NOTHING wrong with you. This is a very common situation, so please don’t feel alone or like there is something wrong with you. Sometimes people feel rejected by the opposite sex, and naturally because you are usually friends with the same sex, those are the people that have excepted you all along, so you might feel as though those are the people that will love you. Or it’s possible you really could be bisexual or gay etc. But because you pointed out that you have felt rejected by woman that could be a big reasoning for feeling the way you do. It’s so easy to become lonely in this world, and that can cause anybody to be unsure of themselves and what it is they really want. The best advice I can give you in this situation is to explore your thoughts and feelings a little deeper. Is the real issue a deep rooted feeling of rejection? or do you truly have an attraction to the same sex. Only you can decide what the truth is. If you want to explore your sexuality a little bit thats always a way to determine it..but not the ONLY way. Another would be to have more interaction with a girl (because you said you do love going after them, correct?) so I would say try meeting someone new that you can really get to know and that can really get to know you. Let that person in a little bit. Don’t be afraid of rejection, because thats just going to get you back to square one. Rejection can hurt, but not trying at all can be more damaging in the long run. You are loveable, and you will be loved. I know this world can feel like a cold and dark place, but there is someone out there who will be everything you ever needed. You are worth it, and you are amazing.. please don’t let anyone tell you, or make you feel otherwise!! Hope this helped a little bit.. please come and talk to me whenever, I am always here to listen to you. If you need a listening ear, I have your back! Love, Samantha.
